Tell HN: Please add a way for people to contact you in your profile

I've been using HN and its search feature a lot for my research, and there are a lot of insightful comments from people that seem to be working on the same problem with which I would love to exchange ideas with, and hopefully start collaborating on something meaningful.

Yet it seems that many users don't provide any way for people to contact them, so these serendipitous opportunities to connect with like-minded humans never happen, and it's such a shame.

I know that I could beg our @dang to act as intermediary and contact the user in question on my behalf, but he's too busy and valuable to turn into a glorified phone operator :-)

So, unless you want to remain unreachable, please add an email, an X profile, a phone number, something people can use to contact and discuss "face to face" with you. You never know which door it might open for you.

In these days of anonymous cowards on the internet shouting at each other, having a discussion with a real human stranger by email feels good, and personally I truly treasure the few HN users that have written me over the years about comments I posted, and you might too.

19 points | by sph 91 days ago

10 comments

  • porcoda 91 days ago
    > I know that I could beg our @dang to act as intermediary and contact the user in question on my behalf, but he's too busy and valuable to turn into a glorified phone operator :-)

    Oh my god no. I intentionally am uncontactable on here and I’m sure that’s true for many others. I don’t want HN people to connect with me, open doors, etc. It may surprise some folks, but some of us don’t give a shit about networking, hustling, etc. via online message boards.

    For all the high quality tech people on here, there seems to be a similar number of hucksters, get-rich-quick people, life-optimization-influencers, technical dilettantes, and other types I actively would like to avoid ever being contacted by. If the admins ever facilitate piercing that anonymity that would kill this site forever for me.

    • sph 90 days ago
      > Oh my god no. I intentionally am uncontactable on here and I’m sure that’s true for many others.

      Then don't add an email to your profile.

      I have been on this site 10 years more than you, and I have yet to be contacted by a scammer, con artist or whatever else you are afraid of, FWIW. Not everyone is out to scam their fellow neighbour.

      Again, no one is forcing you to become contactable.

      • ffgjgf1 90 days ago
        So people who don’t want to be contacted by others don’t get an option for password recovery? Interesting perspective…
  • LinuxBender 91 days ago
    I know that I could beg our @dang to act as intermediary and contact the user in question on my behalf, but he's too busy and valuable to turn into a glorified phone operator

    He would not do that. If people do not wish to be contacted outside of HN they leave their contact information out of the profile. I personally like that I have the option and to keep conversations here. If something was urgent I can create a throw-away email and temporarily list it in my profile, then remove it.

    I would suggest that if people opt to share contact info in their profile, they should use a canary address that can be discarded without causing grief as there are some unhinged lurkers. I see them planning raids on this site from other sites from time to time.

    • squigz 91 days ago
      > I would suggest that if people opt to share contact info in their profile, they should use a canary address that can be discarded without causing grief as there are some unhinged lurkers. I see them planning raids on this site from other sites from time to time.

      The day I'm afraid of Internet trolls finding my email is the day I leave the Internet forever.

      • PenguinCoder 91 days ago
        The days of internet trolls turning to physical nuisances or outright danger, happens daily.
        • ipaddr 91 days ago
          It was much worse in the bbs days when things were smaller.
        • squigz 91 days ago
          That's been happening for many, many years.
        • mlhpdx 91 days ago
          Citation?
  • wruza 90 days ago
    A thread of frustration this is, because people who agree or are neutral will remain silent even if outnumber those who criticize. Note taken, but personally I try to keep my internet “images” disconnected for unclear forward privacy reasons. And maintaining yet another fake email for that - too lazy.

    I think that unless you’re going to reach people daily, it’s probably okay to find a recent comment of a user and try to explain your ideas and communicate under it. Worst case they’ll politely pretend being offline.

  • gizajob 91 days ago
    Maybe people want to be unreachable? HN is one of the safe spaces for those of us from the olden days of the ‘net, before it was real names and total visibility. Anyone who wants to be contacted puts their info in the about box. Those who don’t, don’t.

    Recently, I found it creepy that someone actually found me elsewhere on the internet because they got upset with something I said on here, then were trailing my fairly well manicured online presence for ad hominems to use here. I could see it in my analytics logs. I found it pretty weird, so I for one wouldn’t want any more of my contact details available here, where I’m free to say whatever I want and let the community upvote or downvote it.

  • joshstrange 91 days ago
    The best is when people post on “Who wants to be hired” with no way to contact them, I don’t get it.
    • qup 91 days ago
      reverse filter. selects for the most motivated hire-ers
  • squigz 91 days ago
    > I know that I could beg our @dang to act as intermediary and contact the user in question on my behalf, but he's too busy and valuable to turn into a glorified phone operator :-)

    The response to this bit is a little surprising. It's really not that uncommon for a platform operator to forward the rare message between users - even Github does this (I've requested they forward several messages to users in regards to acquiring particular usernames)

  • sph 90 days ago
    OP here: I guess I shouldn't have included the dang thing because it's all people are focused about now. Indeed it is very possible for dang NOT to contact one on anyone's behalf, it was just a silly assumption on my part for sake of argument, I didn't expect people to clutch their pearls. This post is not prescriptive.

    The idea is if you want people to contact you, add an email, you maybe forgot to. If you don't want to, move along, nothing to see here.

  • oriettaxx 91 days ago
    nonsense to me

    if you want to contact somebody just make the move, ask in a comment

    • squigz 91 days ago
      This isn't really a great suggestion on HN. You don't get notified of replies, it can be tricky to keep track of what you have read, etc.
    • 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 91 days ago
      To be fair I don't always read the responses to my comments.
  • 1122553 91 days ago
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